According to Rosa, the presence of younger generally regarded as a rival by his brother. Moreover, if the brother does not really prepared to welcome the arrival of the brother from the brother was still in the womb.
It should be understood, clearly Rosa, "At preschool age, children are in a constant state of conflict with the environment. The term psychology, negativism. "On the other hand, he is in a period always wanted to draw the attention of parents. Thus, if the mother / father says, "You have to love the brother," the older brother would probably say, "Yes." But he also would say, "No," because he wanted to draw attention to the mother / father. So usually what happens to the brother, "I'll do what I like." So, diganggulah the brother, only to get the attention of the mother / father.
In addition, the brother had been an only child for some time before her sister was born. He does not understand that love and attention my father / mother to him has not changed, although there is now a sister. What he saw, father / mother is now no longer fully pay attention to him. Well, what can he do to regain the attention? Yes, by way of annoying his sister.
"Actually, the elder bother was not to hurt her brother, but only to divert the attention of a parent or another adult who happened atensinya was on the brother," said Rosa. But if this way works, so long will become a habit. Conversely, if you do not succeed, for example mother / father became angry, the toddler will try to attract attention again. "And so on like an endless circle," he added.
The brother LIKE "DAMAGE"
What about the little brother? It must be realized, the little brother who still toddlers really love to "make trouble". He often dropped the wooden blocks that have been compiled into one building the palace by his brother, tugging at her hand and foot to come off his sister's doll, or even tear up the book "lessons" the brother.
This is because the toddler is in the exploration stage. He is studying their world, develop their curiosity by constantly testing environment. He was not yet fully understand the meaning of ownership, so often he "ruin" anything that attracted attention, seize anything that is being held or played by his brother. No wonder if eventually you have to deal with an argument for the sake of argument between the brother and sister. So, how we should behave?
Generally, parents will be impartial and to protect the younger children. "You are, are you, brother. Mbok, relented. Your brother was a kid, have not understood anything. "Or," Do not hit your sister! He, right, is still small. Let him play with the car-mobilanmu. Later if your sister had finished playing, then you can play it. "
The attitude of parents, according to Rosa, inseparable from the role of culture / cultural. That the eldest child or the older child is expected to be a good example for her younger siblings. Instead the little brother, because he is smaller, then it is considered weaker. "To the brother, he must usually be invested according to her sister. It's okay if you baseball could be responsible because you are smaller, "said Rosa.
For the older child who must be an example, according to Rosa, will be heavy. Moreover, he was still a toddler. He will feel, why I always expected while the little brother did not? If it continues to be invested, Rosa worried, "The older brother would later develop into a child who always blame themselves and less confident."
While the brother, according to Rosa, will be a child who is always dependent and less responsible. "It would be easy to remove the responsibility to others. He also became less confident in the sense that he decided he would wait for Mama used to wait a brother first. In fact the truth, every child should have the capacity to decide the issue itself, "explained a Bachelor of Education from IKIP Jakarta.
So even with the attitude that sees the boy had to succumb than girls because boys are stronger while the weaker girls. "In fact, right, is not always so. Sometimes the boy is not strong, and girls are not always weak, "said Rosa. As a result of the child woman, it is not impossible so take advantage of his brother he was then a man. If there is anything, he would say, "You, right, boys. Bantuin me, dong. "He would always ask for protection.
