Overcoming the fight between your child I

Fight between your child

Naturally, brother and sister fight. New reconciled, a while later was "busy" again. You can not avoid them. But, why are they fighting? How to cope? "Allowed! It's mine! "Cried the sister, snatching back cars captured brother. But the brother did not want to lose. He seized cars behind it. Be they grab each other, screaming. The sister who annoyed, finally hitting his younger brother. She wept.

Other times, the brother who makes trouble. Her sister who was busy playing alone, suddenly, either take her dolls, tie her hair off, or just teasing. The sister who feels disturbed, then angry, yelling. The elder brother rather than stop "teasing" the younger sister, even more fun. He only stopped after the little one cries or mothers' hands down.

Something like that might have become "daily meal" for the parents of children under five. Either the brother or the sister who makes trouble ahead. Not infrequently we contrived annoyance and despair facing children who seemed to stop fighting. As a result, when the children fight, we usually will immediately yell, asking them to immediately stop the quarrel, scold, and even punishing.

Expressing Emotion

Do not panic when the kids fight. If we do, they will only continue to feel blamed, feel that the fight was 'a huge sin' in the house just because usually the parents who panic and then scold and punish. How come? This is because it doesn't  always have a negative impact. Through the fight, children learn to express their emotions. Such debate. Because of a fight, baseball should be just a physical contest. Now, through arguing, they learn to express opinions and emotions.

A fight or quarrel, is the result. Because that's what should be highlighted. Not the argument but how each child express their emotions. Children who do not dare argue, may not dare to express anger or irritation. Usually they will have a flat emotion, not sensitive, less sensitive.

However, do not mean that I agree that any conflict should always be sustained in a fight. Especially if they are to physical fights, it should be avoided. Because, if we get children argue and end up with physical fights, then what happens is they could not control their emotions. But, what really makes the kids fight?

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Educating children to make money

Is that a right decision, educating children to make money?

Our error society caused of Indonesia's population growth lags far behind compared to neighboring countries such as Malaysia and Singapore, because since our children are not well educated and trained to think how can make money by selling something.

Generally, many parents ask their children to learn well though later it can work in government agencies, are offering higher salaries to their employees. Almost.. very few parents who want their children to trade, sell, working independently, after graduating school. So, after school graduating, nearly all the younger generation rollicking applying for a job. Very little is directly open their own business. If ever there was one, usually because of difficulties in getting any kind of jobs, so they have to open their own business.

This is a big mistake to the people of Indonesia, so we do not go-forward. Our society is always bound poverty due to the mindset or paradigm of thinking about the education of their children. This must be changed. Since childhood, they must be accustomed to seek the independent. They are trained, how can make money without depending on others.

Give the Commission

Maybe this is a very good example, a friend of mine, who indeed has had a mind developed to achieve prosperity for themselves, their families, and society. What is interesting is the way he was looking for course participants. He does not have to look for themselves, but recruit high school students from many schools.

Students who successfully invite other students to join in the institution he led English courses given the commission a percentage of course fees. For example, the course fee of Rp 50,000 per month, then the student who has to invite other students taking a course will be given a commission of Rp 20,000.
If he managed to invite 10 friends, then he will receive a commission of Rp 200,000. And so on.

According to him, there are two advantages in a way that he's looking for course participants apply.

First, he does not need to seek their own prospective students who are willing to take a course at the institution. By recruiting such, he automatically has a lot of marketers. This practice has generally run in the online business. Owners of products usually offer to the members to become an affiliate or reseller, with a commission (fee) to 70 percent. As a result, very unusual.

Secondly, he (my friend) may train students to earn money, which means helping ease the burden on parents. Students who are concerned will also be used to always think how can make money themselves. So, they will have skills in business.

Out of school, they get used to engage in business activities. Do not worry about being unemployed. In fact, the future is expected to create jobs. Good practice in this way, including for parents in educating their children. Parents do not educate their children to be requesting the work, but job creators. People who can create jobs or business will quickly succeed than just as a worker.

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Prepare your kids to achieve a bright future

Bright Future Kids

Have you ever thought for a moment what will happen 10-20 years later. One thing certain is that the more severe challenges with a level of intense competition in all areas of life along with the increasing population.

And what about the fate of the son or your daughter someday in the future? Hmm ... would you - as the wise man - have your children have a bleak future. I am sure you are a person who has the slogan "Today is better than yesterday... tomorrow more than today."


Then how to prepare your child to meet a better future?

Providing good nutrition, mental and spiritual guidance, providing attention and affection, providing quality education which great kind of schools. Then.. a modality that should you give to them. Can you just give a legacy of wealth to your son or daughter later, but it will not last long if they can not manage it properly.

So what factors can inhibit / destroy your future child. There are two factors that can damage the future of the internal and external factors. The internal factor is the role of family environment where you can control the condition or state of children and The external factors are outside the home environment such as school environment and the environment that your children play. Special to the school environment are interchangeable controlled environment with the school play / intercourse that control it.  This is a potentially environmentally damaging future child if they only wrong in choosing friends / neighborhood association.

In my opinion.. these make use of free time for something more useful thing and stay away from things that are not useful.. then how can you ask for return to your future kids to do homework or discuss the lessons that never taught in school was interrupted leisure. Thus you can monitor your future child here. To further enhance learning achievement, you can use the services of a tutor who will guide and accompany them to learn at home to maximize the performance at school.

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Tips for choosing the right School for your Children II

Who's the Teacher

School quality is almost always synonymous with his teachers are qualified. Therefore, teachers must be a primary consideration in choosing your child's school. It is important to be seen how their character is and whether they are easy to work together to educate your child.

Find references from Graduates

Output or income student's references at a school is the most real evidence of school quality on offer. You can ask a friend or neighbor or relative or someone else you know who his/her son is in the same school you choose.

Do School Facilities Safe and Comfortable

School facilities do not need luxury. Most important is not the first physical harm and the second your child neat and clean. Schools that neat and clean indirectly teach your child to be neat and clean as well. And vice versa, a dirty classes will make our children lose the sense of cleanliness.

Observe the Culture School

Schools that have a good culture will bear good attitudes to the students. School quality should at least have 5 culture: culture of discipline, the culture of reading, net culture, cultural achievements, and culture of a noble character.

Extracurricular Activities

A good school is a school that provides support and adequate time for extracurricular activities. The more variety of extracurricular activities provided the better the school. Your child will have many options to suit their interests. And your child would be more comfortable at the school to participate in school activities that are creative and productive.

Distance Schools and Transport Facilities

You should also consider the distance between your home to the school. Find a school closer to your home. In addition to light on the cost and save time, schools close to home will save your child's energy.
Note also the means of transport that connects the school with your home. If using public transport there, consider the ease of find it. And if your child use a personal vehicle, note the factor of safety while traveling back and forth to school.

Your Fund

Quality schools usually require greater funding. For that you must be observant to calculate the financial ability to pay for it. You do not need to push yourself. Make planning to any kind of educational needs of your child. Hopefully  you can easily find the school with the high quality but with a relatively low cost. Find a reference as much as you can about this one. Do not let your family finances become unhealthy or your child is nervous because on the way you feel you could no longer pay her school needs.

Those are some considerations that you can use before determining the right school for your child. In reality, probably not all of the above list of considerations can be accommodated properly. However, I'm sure you know more about the priorities you set.

Success for you all!

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Tips for choosing the right School for your Children I

The right School for your Children

If I specialize this with the previous explanation to all parents who want their children enter the great kind of school. A good school reputation and has a plus compared to other schools, I can give you some explanations and tips in terms of a suitable school for your child.

You certainly have your own considerations and differentiation about the continuity of your child's education. However, at least the following tips can help you remember the other factors that may be forgotten in your consideration list.

Determine your Child against Family Vision

What do you want your child in their future look like. Watch and see this two things: what your child could and what your child wants to be ahead. And that desire must be balanced between the success of the world and the hereafter.

Select a School that has Vision Relevant

You should come to the school you choose for them to ensure that these schools have the same vision or close to your family's vision. You can have this knowledge by a way a direct dialogue with leaders of the school or you read the brochure, for the vision of the school. Keep in mind that not all school brochure represent actual school conditions. Some brochures deliberately designed to display the best things just from school. So, you have to be smart as well as in reading the school brochure.

Involve your Children

You need to be aware that your child is the one who's want to go there. So they need to be invited to make a choice, of course with previous guidance. Convey your expectations of your child's future so that our children be in consideration when choosing schools participated.

School Program

Once you know the vision of school, then try your programs carefully designed by the school. The programs are enough to achieve the vision of the school is expected. For that also ask the achievement indicators for the school's vision to see the adequacy of the program.

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How to choose the right school for your kids?

Choosing the right school for your kids

You are preparing to seek a new school for your child? We recommend that you seek the adequate reference before determining which schools will be selected. You also have to act smart and careful in choosing it. It's not my intention to justify a particular school bad or good, but just a reminder how the target of each parents towards education of their children are.

At the elementary and secondary school, each level of parental factors still play in an important role even more dominant. So that the parents need a little understanding and consideration prior to choosing schools for their children.

Schools are not the only determinant of the future pillars of the Child. Many other pillars also contribute, such as family, child competence, talent, and social environment. But the school has a more dominant role in shaping the character and develop the competencies of children. So do not be surprised if all parents want their children could enter superior school or high quality kind of school. They hope their children will get a better education there. And when graduation is coming, they would be a smart kid and with their great skilled expected.

However, as a parent you should be realistic and be ready with whatever the consequences to be exist. Your child should be only too well prepared mentally and mind, as well as you should be ready with all the obligations required in the future. Both the cost and active participation that has been programmed to school. When you and your child is ready for all of that, then made haste to win the rat race winning school won.

Good Luck!

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